Well, Sarah and the aunts are mad at me.  She deliberately disobeyed on Monday so I grounded her for the weekend.  Of course, this is the weekend of Cirque-de-Sol and the aunts wanted to take her, even though they didn't ask until Thursday.  For once I stuck to my guns and said no so now she's crying on the couch like someone just stole her puppy.  But here's the thing, she always ends up getting to go/do whatever she wants when she's grounded because it seems like there's always a special event then, and she's learned nothing.  Maybe this time it will finally sink in that her actions have consequences and she needs to be mad at herself not me. I know, good luck with that, but at least maybe she'll take me seriously from,now on.  I'm tired of kids being in control.