Well, Sarah and the aunts are mad at me.  She deliberately disobeyed on Monday so I grounded her for the weekend.  Of course, this is the weekend of Cirque-de-Sol and the aunts wanted to take her, even though they didn't ask until Thursday.  For once I stuck to my guns and said no so now she's crying on the couch like someone just stole her puppy.  But here's the thing, she always ends up getting to go/do whatever she wants when she's grounded because it seems like there's always a special event then, and she's learned nothing.  Maybe this time it will finally sink in that her actions have consequences and she needs to be mad at herself not me. I know, good luck with that, but at least maybe she'll take me seriously from,now on.  I'm tired of kids being in control.

Bias, Favoritism, and So-called Friends

I'm so tired of  being told to just let things go.  I hate some of the things I see, and more importantly I cannot stand what these things do to my children.

Well, last night was my twins' eighth grade play, and, once again their school showed its hypocrisy to fairness and honesty.  However, it was a nice (sarcasm) parallel of life.  The teachers' kids and those kids from other "favored" families had parts whereas some of the really talented kids were left with non-speaking parts or as extras.  Now, if all of those kids could sing - in tune - I'd have no problem.  But some of them couldn't carry a tune in a bucket. Three were so awful I actually cringed each time they opened their mouths.  Let me put it this way, even someone totally tone-deaf wouldn't have been able to miss it.  Yet, there they were, little shining "stars" mutilating one of the most loved musicals of our time.

Then, there's always the parents with their "my child's better than yours" attitude because of those unearned parts.  It makes me want to scream, "Brush the crap off your nose, take off the blinders, and really LOOK! Your kids aren't better, you just play the suck up game and I don't."  Even though it totally pisses me off, I still have enough sense to realize that the kids are the ones who are going to pay in the long run, because once they get to college and the work world, no one is going to give a rat's ass that mommy was a school teacher or that mommy/daddy kissed the principal's ass.

Then there's those good little Catholic kids themselves.  I don't know if they've spent eight years sleeping through religion classes and mass or what but they've missed a lot.  Some of my daughter's "best" friends have suddenly started to ignore her because she's not going to the same high school as they are...THANK YOU GOD!  Still, it hurts her and I'm woman enough to acknowledge that I hope it comes back to them in spades.  Same for those boys that mistreat/leave my son out of things.  Yeah, I know, I'm a hypocrite as well and you know what, I feel totally evil about it.